Energy Ethics: How to Create and Maintain Healthy Boundaries

       "Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others." ~ Brene Brown, Daring Greatly

      Do you feel called to work with social and environmental problems? Do you want to bring healing and knowledge to others? Do you desire to make a difference in the world, but are having difficulty realizing your greater aspirations? Are you an empath, a lightworker, or a highly sensitive person (HSP)? Not all HSPs are empaths, but most empaths are also HSPs. To learn more about how to tell if you are an empath, you can read what I wrote about that here.

      Empathic people often have a lightworker life purpose of helping others and making a difference in the world, but because they are a sponge for negative energy, this can disrupt their ability to actualize their purpose. I have written about Energy Hygiene, or how to clear your energy here. But to prevent yourself from taking on negative energy in the first place, I'd like to share about how to create and maintain healthy boundaries. I call this Energy Ethics.

   Energetic Push and Pull

    Energetic boundaries become violated by the push and pull reaction people have with each other. If you are feeling sorry for someone and have a "poor you" reaction when you think of them, your energy pushes forward beyond their boundaries. Due to the non-local nature of energy, this happens no matter how much geographic distance separates you from the person you are worrying about. If you are feeling sorry for yourself and are thinking "poor me," you will have a pull reaction to those around you, pulling their energy toward you past your energetic boundaries. Likewise, if you tell someone about your problems in a "poor me" energy state, they may push past your boundaries in a "poor you" energetic response.

     Now I want to make an important point: There is nothing wrong with feeling sorry for yourself. Your anger, sadness, fear, guilt and shame are all valid emotions. It's just not best for your health and well-being to be stuck in those states of being. You can learn more about how to let go of worrying here. To help you shift your energetic vibrations to prevent the push or pull reaction of others, I've written this article.  To help prevent you from absorbing the negativity of others, read on!

Being a Mirror vs. a Sponge

     Taking on other people's stuff like a sponge doesn't help them or you. It violates our own boundaries and negatively affects our health and well-being. And the person who we took the negative energy from will just make more! Likewise, trying to "fix" someone by forcing them to see themselves violates their boundaries and doesn't help them either.

     Instead of absorbing the negative energy of others like a sponge, imagine you are holding up a mirror. This is done completely free of judgment or any agenda. Visualize placing a mirror in front of you and facing away from you - with no expectation of what will happen when you do. This can be an intention that you set each morning. Simply say out loud to yourself:

 "Even though I have been absorbing the negative energy of others, I love and accept myself and I now choose to be like a mirror, reflecting back rather than taking on."

    You can also imagine yourself inside a disco ball of mirrors, reflecting back everything around you.

    When we maintain healthy boundaries, our energy remains clear and vibrant. And we are free to actualize our life purpose.

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