Monday, October 17, 2016

How to Reset Your Life

     "The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate."  ~ Oprah Winfrey, What I Know For Sure

     In September 2016 I took a week off from work and designed a much needed "retreat" for myself, scheduling activities each day that would contribute to my growth.  These activities included communing with nature, meaningful social connections, activities from a self development online course I was taking, and meeting with both my healer and my coach by Skype. I playfully named my retreat "Heidipalooza" and embraced each day with zeal.

     It was no coincidence that I scheduled this retreat to coincide with a full moon lunar eclipse and the fall equinox predicted to bring in another wave of ascension-level energies. (For more about ascension, click HERE. ) I knew I would need some space in my life to process and integrate what was to come.  But I had no idea how profound the experience would be.  Because by the end of the week, I experienced a complete reset of the way I work in the world-- from in-person, to online...from local, to global. This is no small thing, considering I have been working pretty much the same way in the same room for over 20 years.

     I've written extensively about endings and beginnings in my award-winning books, and I've experienced them in my life.  But nothing prepared me for how dramatic this change would be.

What is a Reset?

     A reset is like an inner earthquake. It may seem that an earthquake is a single, isolated event. But an earthquake is the end result of many years of built-up tension along a fault line. The release of that tension produces the event. And once the dust settles from an earthquake, we can usually see that the ground has repositioned. It is the same for an inner earthquake. Immediately after a life reset, we may find our worldview repositioned. That shift will likely include changes in our mental and spiritual beliefs, a shift in our emotional state, and bodily changes - all for your highest good.

     In physics a reset like I experienced is known as a "quantum jump" - a sudden leap from one state to another without any discernible process in between. One day I worked the same way I always have, and the next day I no longer had any desire to work that way. A quantum leap is by its nature unpredictable and unexpected. But when it happens there are some things you can expect.

     After a reset you may experience the following:

  • Change in viewpoint. Overnight, you may see difficult situations in your life in a whole new light.  Solutions to problems that you couldn't solve can seem suddenly obvious. 
  • More in the present moment. You may become less preoccupied with the past and the future and find yourself more in the present moment. 
  • Less judgmental and critical of self and others. Behaviors of others that were previously intolerable to you may no longer bother you as you become disengaged from drama and more accepting of yourself and others. 
  • Health. You may experience a shift in your health with sudden positive changes in your mental, emotional, physical and spiritual states. Change is never isolated to one aspect of our life. We are mental, spiritual, physical and emotional beings and change affects every level. Along with my work reset, I also experienced a sudden positive shift in my eating habits -- and that's not a coincidence! 
  • Irreversible. When you experience a reset, it will feel like you can't go back to your previous state - even if you wanted to.  The change is "one-way." 
  • Push-back. Change creates discomfort in those you are connected to. This is understandable and requires a compassionate response, not guilt that you have changed!
Create Your Own Retreat  

     Although I was largely unaware of it, I was apparently ready for a reset of my work life. Because these inner shifts that product dramatic outer change do not happen unless we are ready - whether we are aware of that readiness or not. In the same vein, you can't control a reset or decide when it will occur. But what you can do is create space in your life for growth, engage in healing activities... and let go of the outcome. 

     You don't have to take a week off from work to create a retreat. The important thing is to seek out activities that contribute to your growth. These activities will help you move toward the changes you want in your life. 
  • Get help. See a professional who specializes in personal growth and healing, such as a healer or a life coach.
  • Detox. Drink more water and eliminate processed food from your diet.  Eat more raw food.  
  • Eliminate Clutter. Spend some time clearing clutter out of your home environment. 
  • Unplug. Try unplugging from social media and disengaging from any social interactions that are negative. 
  • Plug in.  Choose to interact with positive people who raise your spirits and your energy. Spend time in nature, especially with your shoes off to ground with the Earth. Deep breathe for ten minutes at a time. Meditate. 
Celebrate Life!  

     I started my Heidipalooza in the spirit of rejuvenation. The change it facilitated has not been easy for me or the people I am connected to. But life transitions do not have to be serious or heavy either. Change, no matter how uncomfortable, can be fun if we approach it as such. I choose to celebrate all the changes in my life, big and small! 
     
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Saturday, October 8, 2016

The Power of Self Tenderness

     "There is nothing as strong as tenderness. And nothing as tender as strength."  
~ Saint Francis de Sales, Introduction to the Devout Life

     No matter how much money I have in my bank account, I tend to feel some anxiety when I'm checking my balance, or paying my bills.  This morning was no exception. As I felt the anxiety creeping in,  I began talking to myself out loud in the same soothing voice I would use for a loved one who was fearful. Almost immediately I felt myself relax. Amazing! Could it really be that simple? Well... yes and no.  It is as simple as talking to yourself with kindness.  But making the shift to doing so can be challenging. Because for many of us, negative self-talk is deeply ingrained.

     For  sensitive persons who are awakening and growing, who are usually also empathic and have a lightworker purpose  (read HERE to find out if you are an empath) learning how to talk lovingly to self is the mastery phase of the ascension process. This is because loving self-talk is a master key to health

    Although we talk lovingly to our pets, children in our lives and other loved ones, it may feel "wrong" to treat yourself tenderly.  You may have never even considered this before, the disparity between how you treat yourself and how you treat your loved ones. We tend to exclude ourselves from our circle of loved ones!  But the truth is, in order to truly love others, you must align yourself with self-love. Because kindness is the healing salve for your wounds (more about that HERE)

How to Talk To Self With Tenderness

     Here are some tips to learning how to be tender with yourself:
  • Tone and Energy. Talk to yourself using the same soft tone and energy that you would use for a child, a beloved pet, or a dear friend.  Cherish yourself by showing tenderness.
  • Words. This self talk could be anything from "Sweetie" or "Honey" to "You can do this. I believe in you."
  • Know that it may feel awkward to talk to yourself this way - like trying to be affectionate with a stranger. Because many people are so estranged from themselves they do feel like a stranger! If you are just starting a relationship with yourself, it can take time - just as it takes time to get to know anyone new in your life. 
  • Imagine someone you care about in distress. What do you feel? The caring feeling accompanied by an expansive feeling in your chest is compassion. Now transfer that feeling of compassion to yourself. 
Tender Self-Talk Vs Narcissism

     I want to make a point here that tender self-talk is not narcissism!  A narcissist's self-talk would be more like "I am better than others." Being tender with yourself is about treating yourself as well as anyone else, not treating yourself as superior to others.

The Power of Self Tenderness

     Self-love has a powerfully positive effect on your health and well-being. And here's why: Loving yourself aligns you with the truth of who you are.  This is a universal truth - you are lovable and acceptable always and forever, no matter what.  When you deny yourself love and acceptance, this produces a state of disharmony which disrupts the flow of your energy. And the state of your energy determines the state of your health.

     When you are tender with yourself, your energy instantly shifts to a state of harmony, which is your natural state of health and well-being. This is why I immediately felt myself relax when engaging in tender self-talk during an anxious episode.

     Tenderness is powerful medicine - energy medicine, what I refer to as The Other Medicine That Really Works. 


     
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